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Bullying is a multifaceted dilemma. As parents we don’t realise the extent of our influence on the child either being bullied or being the bully.

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Bullying is an ever increasing problem that touches and affects the lives of not only children, parents and families but also bystanders. Those children who are witness to regular violence, extortion, threats, verbal abuse and more are the ones who live in fear that they might be next or that they will fall out of favour if they stand up for a bullied child or resist coercion and intimidation to join in.

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As parents it is our duty to mirror and teach the significance of Respect, Tolerance, Understanding and fair play to our children from birth and not only once they are confronted with bullying.

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The coaching process with you, the parent includes looking at your current parenting approach. What is working for you and what you feel needs to change. It’s about working on a plan together, giving you the tools to assist and guide your child.

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During the coaching process with the child that is the victim of bullying, I find out what he/she is experiencing and where they find themselves at present. We look at his/her social skills, self confidence, self-esteem, fear, and anxiety to name but a few. Once we have pin pointed which areas need attention we set out a plan of action that will give the child the tools to handle victimization.

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With the child that is the bully, I will look into the motivation for his/her behaviour. The reason why kids become bullies are vast and varied and each child and each situation unique. Once motivation has been established the child and I work together on techniques and goals to adapt his/her outlook and work towards adjusting his/her behaviour.

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Aggression between siblings is the most common form of family violence.  Sometimes parents inadvertently support bullying by accepting the fighting as a normal part of growing up and leave children to sort out their own problems. It is a good idea to examine the behaviour and personal interactions your child witnesses at home.  If your child lives with taunting and name calling from a sibling or from another parent, it could be prompting aggressive or hurtful behaviour outside the home.  What may seem like innocent teasing behaviour at home may actually be the root of bullying behaviours.  Together we will look at the family dynamic and what every member in the family unit feels should change. We can work separately with each individual and/or collectively when we set goals and objectives for the family to achieve.