NEW BEGINNINGS

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Having navigated the first 12 years of my life in a single parent household due to divorce, I speak from experience when I say it was not always easy for both my mom and I.  It was a time when the “D” word was not as accepted as it is today.  For my mom it was a life of financial struggles and worry about me as she had to work a full time job and I was left to my own devices after school. She had to try and navigate a social life that always included me and through all this she was the most awesome mom any girl could ever wish for.  She did a good job at hiding her struggles to shield me.  I felt love and protected until she decided to put me into boarding school in a neighbouring town at the age of 8.

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From my point of view I felt deserted, scared and wondered what I had done wrong to be sent away. It’s safe to say I had abandonment issues till well into my 30’s. When I started working through them I spoke to her about it and her explanation was simple. “You are my child, I love you and I had to do everything I could to protect you”.  She was worried about me walking back from school every day and being alone at home until she got back from work.

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And herein lays the crux of the matter.  Had she communicated her reasons to me, I would have understood that I had not done anything wrong, was not a burden or that I was being punished. Many years later, at the age of 29 I myself got divorced with  children that were 5 and 6 at the time.  With the little bit of insight I had, I tried to navigate my children and I through a very difficult process.

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Although single parenting is very common in the world we live in today and many woman and men have a full-time job, sometimes two, run a household, raise children and attempt to have a social life, there are many aspects to being a successful single parent that can be extremely difficult, disappointing, frustrating and often challenging.

 

New Beginnings' coaching  programme incorporates the following:

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1. As a Single Parent the focus is on you the individual, what your challenges are, empowering you to optimize your situation to become more engaged, fulfilled, effective, productive and confident.

    

2. I also work with your child/ren that are being raised in a single parent household.  Working with your children, assisting them with the challenges they face is vitally important and goes a long way towards easing their stress and making life happier.

    

3. Individuals that are contemplating divorce or are in the throes of a divorce.  It cannot be stressed enough that when you have children and this is what you are going through, You.Need.A.Well.Planned.Exit.Map!

    

    After death, divorce is one of the most stressful events a parent or child will ever have to deal with in their lifetime.  How you go about it is crucially important to the child’s overall well-being. A loving, responsible parent and adult will handle the divorce in a planned, organized fashion with their children. In so doing you will be giving yourself and your child/ren the greatest gift.